Simple Reminders
- Slow Down Every Process
- Schedule regular time for relaxation
- Use aromatherapy to help you relax
- Create a stress-free place for yourself at home
- Bring your awareness to your body
- Release the tensions you are carrying
- Try sauntering
- Find the middle way
- Don’t eat too much; don’t eat too little
- Don’t sellp too much; don’t seel less than needed
- Drop all extremes
- Try lounging
- Try smiling gently while you breathe
- Sit and do nothing for 5 minutes
- Leave effort behind
- Be in the present moment
Joke Book at Bedtime
Keep a joke book by your bedside. Before turning out the lights at bedtime, sit silently for a few minutes breathing with awareness, watching any thoughts and emotions, and noticing how your body is feeling. Read the jokes for ten minutes or longer, keeping a smile on your face even if you are not lauging at all the jokes and maintain a mood of amusement and fun. Focus on the jokes, not thinking about anything else, only the jokes.
The Mind: Don’t Fight, Just Watch
Simply by watching the disturbance of mind, body, and emotions, with non-judgment and acceptance, slowly, over time, the traffic of the mind begins to slow down, and we move from being controlled by the mind to connecting with the heart. This brings us more balance and clarity as it accesses our inner intelligence, dignity, and wisdom.
This is what happens in meditation. The meditator takes a journey from the outer realm to the inner, subjective world where she finds the parts of herself she often ignores, forgets about, or is disconnected from: her feelings, emotions, soul, her essential being.
It is not that meditation is against the mind; it is beyond the mind. The mind is our bridge from the subconscious to the conscious, our gateway of expression the outer world…. Don’t see it as an enemy, but as a friend.
As this friendship with the mind deepens, the mind will no longer disturb you during meditation. You are not fighting it; you are simply letting its thoughts pass by…..Whatever you are doing – walking, sitting eating, try to do it watchfully.
By making this a continuous inner process, you will be surprised how life can change its quality. Once we reach that place of watcher, or witness, we begin to see ourselves with more clarity and objectivity. We see the dramas in our lives with perspective and compassion, and insights and understandings will begin to arise naturally…… The mind and the ego will want to make it complicated, but it is not. Mind always wants to control. It is a technician. But watchfulness is beyond its control.
The liberation you feel once you realize that you are not the mind can be extraordinary. There is no more anxiety; you are at ease, in a deep let go. You know you can drop down beyond the mind to your inner haven of peace and stillness.
Observe the mind as you would a TV screen
Watch the different shows your mind flashes across the screen and remember you are the watcher, dis-identified, relaxed. You are the master, in control, calm, centered, viewing everything with objectivity and clarity.
Practicing Nonjudgment
As we practice watching the mind in meditation, we begin to observe our judgments. When they arise, we can accept them and let them go. Nonjudgment means accepting life the way it is, getting beyond the good/bad duality of the mind to a place of relaxation and inner stillness.
When we judge we cut ourselves off from the world around us; we lose our sensitivity, we shrink, and we close. Through the practice of watching, by and by a subtle awareness arises that keeps us open-minded for unknown possibilities to emerge. We become more available for life to happen through us. We become more loving.
Mind moves horizontally from on moment to the next, like a train with many compartments. It wants to put every person and situation into a compartment. When we suspend judgment, we can get off the train and participate in life; have a cup of tea, joke with the ticket collector, go for a bike ride, smell the flowers, and listen to the birds in the sky. Life is always original, new. It is vertical. Each moment can rise into height or fall into depth.
Techniques to try: At a store or museum or any place, try walking and notice how many judgments go through your head. Try not to judge yourself for judging. Simply observe how many judgments the mind keeps on making, nonstop, about what it sees. Then see if you can observe your surroundings without judging.
Practice: Looking without judging
Judgment clouds our sight; it’s like looking at a view through a dirty window. This technique gets us comfortable with just looking at things without judgment, allowing us to be present with what is.
Try just looking at a flower or some other small thing for a few minutes. Don’t say “beautiful” or “ugly.” Don’t say anything. Don’t bring in words. Simply look. The mind will feel uncomfortable. It would like you to say something. Try to just ride through this feeling. Try to just look…. By opening your vision, your heart, and your mind in this way, you will find a greater flexibility, openness, and receptivity within yourself to the world at large.
Remember, just look, without judgment; just be present with what is.
Mystic Rose Meditation
Stage 1: Laughter
Stage 2: Crying or Anger or both
Stage 3: The watcher on the hills
Creating your own Practice
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